How to Heal
Allow God
ALLOW GOD to work with us on the layer beneath our feelings or how we were treated. For example, It’s not that he/she abandoned you - it’s what that feeling means to you. This is often a lie that gets planted in our belief system long before we are ever married or grown. So this step involves asking God to help you identify
How you’re feeling
How it has been showing up in your life
How you approach life because of it
How you treat others or allow others to treat you because of it
What you believe about others because of it
KEY CONCEPT - What do you believe this feeling means about you
Identify
IDENTIFY what God says about this topic. This involves the Bible. You will need to find several scripture verses regarding your feeling or belief. Read the context of the verse as well. You may want to take a look at a study Bible that has explanations in the margins or do a topical study on the internet. I often google the word scripture followed by whatever topic I am interested in, i.e. “Scripture fear”.
Compare
COMPARE and contrast what God (the Bible) says about your feeling or belief verses what you believe or feel. I recommend a journal for this. Not only does writing this out help you sort your thoughts, but it is also a record of your journey. You’ll be able to look back and see how far you’ve come.
Lie vs Truth
Get clear on what is the LIE versus what is the TRUTH and begin to train your mind to believe the truth. God will give you the power and strength to do this if you ask Him to. This step, once practiced over and over, is where LASTING CHANGE comes from. I’ll give you an example. I used to believe that when a romantic relationship ended that it was because I was not good enough in lots of ways. I believed this until God reminded me of His truth.
I created you specifically the way you are. I knew you and how you would be long before you were ever born. Every part of you I placed within you because it delights Me and I have a plan for each of the desires I placed in your heart. Every thing I create is perfect and pleasing to me and that includes you. So decide this day who you will agree with - Me or satan? Satan has fed you lies and led you to see proof of them. But My ways and My power are stronger IF YOU WILL MAKE THE CHOICE to agree with Me that my creation, that being you, is good.
How could I ever look God in the eye again and tell him I am not good enough after that? So, now I stand firm with His power believing that I am exactly what He wanted.
Evidence
Look for EVIDENCE of God’s truth everywhere because it IS everywhere. Look at it as though you are creating a new habit or building muscle. Also, it will help tremendously if you have someone in your life who is also looking for the evidence of God’s truth. If you have little contact with people like this, then consider joining a Facebook group like the one Healing Your Hope has called Christian Divorce Recovery for Women.
Reach out and get SUPPORT! There are so many great resources for support while you work through your healing. We were not created to do life alone.
Support Groups (Divorce Care, Church groups, Facebook groups)
Coaching or Counseling
Books (check out our free list here)
Courses
Friends and Family
Blog Articles